- Find a Purposeful Life’s Work for the Benefit of Others We are in this world to live among people, and all the best and worst things that come to us are mostly from them. Opportunities, resources, knowledge, money, positive emotions – all these come from others. Each of us has a mission in life to be of use to others in some way.
When you find a way to serve others, you tap into a source of immense positive energy. That’s why one of the greatest joys in life is to find an activity that improves the lives of others. And this can be achieved in any field!
If you want to delve deeper into this concept and understand yourself better, I have a separate video tutorial on mission and purpose.
- Spend Time with Loved Ones Studies conducted by American psychologists show that people who consciously set aside time for their loved ones are happier at the end of their lives than those who don’t. Many busy and successful people make the mistake of thinking that spending time with loved ones is a waste of time, but they often regret this later in life. Sharing emotions and experiences with loved ones adds color and meaning to life. And it’s not just about sharing positive experiences; the act of sharing is what’s important.
It makes no sense to complain about a lack of connection with loved ones if you don’t make an effort to connect with them. Relationships, especially close family relationships, require attention to flourish.
- Change Your Attitude Toward Resentment Resentments are like black holes of energy. People who are resentful are among the most energetically drained people in the world. Many of them spend their lives trying to overcome their inferiority complex due to their hyper-sensitivity. If your thoughts are constantly focused on who said or did something to you and what you should say or do in response, then all your energy is drained. The energy you need to be happy every day.
The solution is to treat resentments as markers of what is inside you. We are only offended by things that we believe to be true. Conversely, we cannot be offended by something that we do not believe. So you can thank the people who have offended you because they have pointed out your weaknesses and provided an opportunity for you to work on them and live a happier life.
- Celebrate the Success of Others Like it’s Your Own While it’s natural to compare yourself to others, it’s crucial to keep it in perspective. Observing others can inspire us, give us a competitive edge, and show us what we do or don’t want in life. However, issues arise when competition becomes toxic and starts to negatively impact our lives.
Unhealthy competition can lead to unhappiness and result in anger, jealousy, and self-doubt. We may find ourselves constantly searching for new enemies and living in a state of stress. But what if we approached things differently? By viewing others who have achieved our goals and aspirations as part of the bigger picture and evidence that success is attainable, we tap into a powerful source of positive energy. This shift can lead to improved relationships, easier goal attainment, and overall happiness.
- Take a Break in Nature Make an effort to spend time in nature, even if it’s just once a week. Being surrounded by plants and animals and slowing down can bring you more happiness than a full week of binge-watching Netflix. There’s something special about this type of rest that cannot be replicated.
- Exercise Your Body While we tend to focus on mental exercise, it’s essential to remember that the mind and body are intertwined. Neglecting physical activity can impact our overall happiness and well-being. Regular exercise releases endorphins, helps maintain a healthy body, and can even enhance our dating prospects. Health should always be a priority for happiness.
- Let Go of the Past People who consider themselves happy generally have a straightforward attitude towards their past: it’s a collection of experiences, but not something to dwell on. These individuals don’t let the past dictate their emotions or thoughts, no matter their age. They live in the present and focus on the future, even in their 80s. They view the past as a grateful part of their lives, but something they’ve left behind. Happy people don’t live in the past, as it’s associated with sadness and loss.
On the other hand, people who are stuck in the past tend to look backward instead of forward. Imagine walking forward while keeping your eyes fixed behind. It’s unlikely you’ll reach your destination quickly, or be happy on the journey. These questions are rhetorical and serve to emphasize the importance of letting go of the past for happiness.
- Aim High with Your Goals The bigger the goal, the less likely it is to miss. This is how our subconscious mind operates: when we set challenging and ambitious goals, it brings all possible resources together to achieve at least a portion of the goal. As a result, we accomplish intermediate goals that we previously thought were too difficult. Happiness comes from achieving what we want, and nothing else.
Try this experiment: when working out at the gym, tell yourself you need to do a certain exercise 100 times instead of 30. You’ll see how easy those 30 become! This applies to any other goal, whether it’s financial, career, or family related. Those who aim to make 10 million a year end up making 1 million easily, and those who aim to find the love of their life in a year find fulfilling relationships during that year. Test it for yourself!
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Accelerating Your Success with the Help of Others
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- Listen to Yourself and Others We can only hear what we already have within us from others. Any guru, coach, preacher, or writer can only be heard when their thoughts align with what we already know. We listen to ourselves first, before anyone else.
Develop trust in your inner voice, make decisions on your own, and become your own best adviser. You can listen to others, but at the end of the day, you must listen to yourself.
- Set Aside Time for Creativity Creativity is the ability to connect the unconnected and to see beyond the surface. The most interesting resources and emotions are found at the intersection of seemingly incompatible things. After all, creating and being creative in all its forms is the purpose of a person’s life on earth. Isn’t it fulfilling to create something that didn’t exist before you, whether it’s a teaching, drawing, phrase, dish, story, or anything else?
Creativity is unique in that the process and the result are equally important. This is especially true for women, as most of us prefer the inspiring process over the result. Don’t be afraid to indulge in creativity and make time for it. After all, a woman should be happy.