In contrast to men, women tend to place great importance on their appearance, often seeking inspiration from glossy magazines. However, it begs the question – why are women who appear as though their skeletons can be seen without an X-ray deemed as the standard of beauty? Historically, experts in female beauty have always admired the smooth curves of the female form over sharp geometric proportions.
Yet, regardless of one’s physical appearance, how one carries themselves is paramount. Self-esteem plays a pivotal role here. Take, for example, an unassuming woman walking down the street with her head held high, exuding the confidence of a Miss Universe winner. Contrast that to a conventionally pretty girl sitting in a bus, looking trapped like a gray mouse. The difference? Polarities of self-esteem. In one instance, someone is trying to overcompensate, while in the other, self-esteem has plummeted. How does one level the arrogance?
It starts by clearly defining why one needs it and whether it is necessary at all. If one is ready to fight for recognition as a Woman with a capital W, start by loving oneself. Society can sense when one doesn’t love oneself, which can lead to being absorbed into a gray mass. But you are not like that – you are a unique individual with many talents waiting to be showcased.
Begin by setting goals for yourself and writing them down, hanging them on your mirror. Every morning after your shower, look in the mirror and remind yourself of your purpose. The first goal should be to love yourself. Cut yourself off from the outside world and pursue a hobby, something that only you know about. It could be anything, from embroidery to belly dance to learning a new language. Keep it to yourself and enjoy the intrigue.
Next, learn to walk with confidence. You are the queen, and it is up to you to decide who is worthy of your attention. Remember, “this rose did not bloom for him.” Let that phrase guide you through life, reminding you that you are unique and should not be taken for granted.
Lastly, expand your vocabulary. An erudite woman is always a turn-on for men. Although some say that they don’t like intelligent people, that’s nonsense. It’s all about being reasonably smart. Your gentleman will appreciate going out with you in public, where you can easily hold your own in conversations with “socialites.” Just be sure to know when to listen and let your partner shine.
Never worry about your appearance. You are one of a kind, and somewhere out there, someone is looking for someone just like you. Be yourself, listen to your favorite music, watch the movies you love, and don’t blindly follow fashion trends. Enjoy life and be happy with who you are!
